Fave Friday: Mate Traits

November 20th, 2009
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Kay, I'm gonna get shmall kine heat for this one from the fellas out dea, but since it's one year anniversary time for yours truly and the lady friend wifey, here's a mushy topic for us to chat about today (sorry boyz!). :P

There's a new song out on the radio by former American Idol finalist Jason Castro called "Let's Just Fall In Love Again" (see video and lyrics below). It's pretty catchy and, dare I say, cute (*cringe*), but more importantly, the lyrics teach us a nice little lesson about love and how to keep that fire a burnin' with your mate of many years.

We've probably got peeps up in hurr who've been married for decades, newlyweds, and even the singles (heyyyy!) looking for love, so along those lines, let's post our favorite traits of our mates for a fun little Fave Friday listing.

To all y'all singles, your job is funner. List the traits you traditionally look for in a future mate. And fellas, please use "Pager Talk" like 58008 if you're gonna be pervy! Ahahahaha! Nah! Let's do this!

  1. Cute (inside and out)- I may've mentioned this before, but a wise man (my friend) once told me: "Pretty is temporary, cute lasts forever." Word.
  2. Supportive - whatever I wish to pursue (Tin Man, getting my real estate license, interviews with celebs, etc.) she's always so supportive.
  3. Down- is always up for something fun and spontaneous (sports, new restaurants, etc.) and rarely monkus about it. Game for almost anything, as long as it's with me. Awwww.
  4. Tries Hard - no matter what it is, she tries her best to improve and impress.
  5. Well Liked/Lovable- whether it's my friends, family, co-workers, etc., she can get along with any of 'em. And they all loooove her. At least that's what they tell me. :P

Now for the fun list. If I were to put myself in the place of a single person, I'd probably look for the following:

  1. Smile - shows that they're nice (usually).
  2. Honesty - liars are out like trout.
  3. Genuine- can't stand fakeness.
  4. Thoughtfulness - shows that they're interested in you.
  5. 58008- Bwahahahahaha! Sorry, I just had to.

So what about you bu? No be shame 'cause remember, this post is mushy to begin with. :P Post away!



Jason Castro - Let's Just Fall In Love Again

Let's pretend baby
That you've just met me
And I've never seen you before
I'll tell all my friends
That I think you're starin'
And you say the same to yours

And oh, we'll dance around it all night
And then I'll follow you outside
And try to open up my mouth
And nothing comes out right

And I wanna fall in love with you again
I don't have to try
It's so easy
Who needs to pretend?
But because it's so funny
Let's just think about it honey
Let's just fall in love again

I'll call you in three days
Not too soon, not too late
And I'll ask your roommate if you're home
You call me on Thursday
And we'll hang out all day
Then fall asleep on the phone

And oh, I'll hold your hand when we drive
And we'll lose track of all the time
And we'll tell everyone
That we ain't never felt so alive

And I wanna fall in love with you again
I don't have to try
It's so easy who needs to pretend?
But because it's so funny
Let's just think about it honey
Let's just fall in love again

We'll fall disgustingly fast
And we'll stop hangin' out with friends
And they'll be so offended

And I wanna fall in love with you again
I don't have to try
It's so easy
Who needs to pretend?
But because it's so funny
Let's just think about it honey
Let's just fall in love again

Let's just fall in love again
So let's just fall in love again

P.S. For anyone getting married soon, the song above is probably a cute little song for a wedding slideshow or the like. You heard it here first. You're welcome! ;)
P.P.S. If you post something nice about your mate, and they give you a big fat smooch (or more?) as a result, you're also welcome! :P

Happy VHO7V Friday! Have a good weekend y'all, and be sure to tell that special someone you love them! ;)

54 Responses to “Fave Friday: Mate Traits”

  1. Texasgenes:

    Nice to see someone else appreciate Jason Castro!!!


  2. Ynaku:

    Cute you. Das all I'll say. (for now. Gotta go work)


  3. M:

    Good morning Ed! :)

    Happy Friday! :)

    You coming tonight to the Triad blog party! I hope I'll see you there! :)


  4. rayboyjr:

    :D :D :D :D :D ... Happy VHO7V Friday!!! ... :D :D :D :D :D

    ... awww, Ed ... a serious and mushy topic ... ok, I'll shed my goofball atttitude today ... and get a wittle bit mushy ... for the record, I'm not into baby talk, either ... hated when some of my "couple" friends did the "I wuv you" and "no, I wuv you more bumpkin!" talk in front of us ... yeeecch!!! :mad:

    ... anyway, there's seems to be so many things we look for in the "perfect" mate ... looks, intelligence, personality, humor, etc ... but when it really comes down to it ... it really comes down to little intangible things that's hard to describe ... at least for me ...

    ... it's almost like ... you know a person is right for you inside ... somehow, you just know ...

    ... girls I tend to fall for have that "cute" quality, too ... but I'm not talking about looks ... it's more about attitude and personality ... and you can't force "cuteness" ... you either have it or you don't ...

    ... sorry, Ed ... no perv response from me ... I might talk like a perv ... but when it comes to relationship ... I tend to straighten out ... ;) ;)

    ... Have a Good One Everyone!!! ...


  5. rayboyjr:

    ... ok, I'll help the brutha Ed out a little bit ...

    ... if on the prowl and just looking ... of course da guys eyes :D :D will notice the 58008 first ... and da bigga do 58008 da bigga da eyes :shock: :shock: ... and then they'll do the silent nod of acknowledgement :cool: between themselves ... as silly boys tend to do :roll: ...

    ... me ... I like a nice pair ... of ... sexy ... seductive ... EYES ... yeah, that's what I notice first ... before a word is said ...

    ... not da 58008 and not da 55V ... can't get to know a woman by staring at her 58008 and 55V ...

    ... but you can stare at her eyes the whole time ... and hold a meaningly conversation ... and you actually might get her interest ...


  6. NeedaHobby:

    When I first read your title, I thought your blog was going to be about those unfave traits. You would've gotten flack from us girls about that, so either way, you're in a lose-lose situation. :lol:

    Anyways, for the fave traits. I like that the hubby is funny - always cracking jokes and also laughing at (appreciating) my nerdy / geeky tendencies. I like his laid-back (mellow) attitude and his patience. He's smart - warning, don't play trivia games against him! I like that we have similar values and think alike - we can often finish each other's sentences. He takes care of me - for example, he'll make me coffee every morning and if we're walking along a roadway, he'll keep to the traffic side. Oh, and of course, he's cute (although I don't know if guys like being referred to as cute)!

    As rayboyjr mentioned. A lot of it are intangible things that is hard to describe. It's a lot of little things that can't really be summed up with one adjective.


  7. World Wide Ed:

    * 1.Texasgenes:
    Nice to see someone else appreciate Jason Castro!!!

    LOL! Castro's cool. I appreciate good muzack from anyone though... :)

    * 2.Ynaku:
    Cute you. Das all I'll say. (for now. Gotta go work)

    Hehe, thanks(?) naks! :P

    * 3.M:
    You coming tonight to the Triad blog party! I hope I'll see you there!

    I going be on one plane at that time. Have a cold one (soda) for me! :)

    * 4.rayboyjr:
    ... it's almost like ... you know a person is right for you inside ... somehow, you just know ...

    ... girls I tend to fall for have that "cute" quality, too ... but I'm not talking about looks ... it's more about attitude and personality ... and you can't force "cuteness" ... you either have it or you don't ...

    Wow! So deep it's bottomless! So true! Impressive beej! 8)

    * 5.rayboyjr:
    ... if on the prowl and just looking ... of course da guys eyes will notice the 58008 first ... and da bigga do 58008 da bigga da eyes

    Bwahahahahahahahahahaha!!!!!!!!!! Funny how men work eh?

    * 6.NeedaHobby:
    He takes care of me - for example, he'll make me coffee every morning and if we're walking along a roadway, he'll keep to the traffic side. Oh, and of course, he's cute (although I don't know if guys like being referred to as cute)!

    Awwwww... hubby sounds like a sweet fella. You lucky Hobbz. Most boys don't know to do those kinda things. And yeah, please refer to us as "cool" not "cute"! :P


  8. tita leerz:

    If I were single, this would be my superficial list:

    1. 588V
    2. 55V
    3. He needs to look like he takes care of himself. Slobs are not sexy. But, if he more pretty than me, then too vain, he only going look at himself.
    4. A marketable college degree is a must. I like expensive restaurants and he has to be able to afford me.
    5. A great sense of adventure.

    The "I'm already married list":
    1. Adventurous. He married me and we made kids. That's a big adventure! It's a fun adventure too! LOL!
    2. Gentleman. It's classy. It's sexy.
    3. Sweats! LOLLOL! He's athletic, he can build stuff, he cleans the house...and, um....hahahhah!
    4. Humble. ....see, opposites do attract. :)
    5. Spiritual.


  9. Erin:

    That is a cute song.


  10. M:

    Ed, have a great trip! :)


  11. kuya.d:

    @leerz - made kids, huh? ... nah-nah! What's your take on Top Chef?


  12. kuya.d:

    @Hobbz - as the Little River Band sang "it's all up to you, but whatever you do ... take it easy on me." Here's to a good matchup!


  13. tita leerz:

    kuya....what da guy name who left the other week before the older lady? i wish he was still there instead of the girl. i'm rooting for mike and the older of the V brothers.


  14. tita leerz:

    I meant Kevin, not Mike. Mike I was the one who left. The other Mike is the younger brother.


  15. tita leerz:

    BTW, guys, IMHO...girls are cute. Women are beautiful or pretty. When I hear a guy refer to a woman as cute, I automatically think of little girls. :)


  16. EMM386:

    I dunno what I really look for. Maybe that's why I'm still single. What I'd really like is a re-habbed alcoholic. That way, she'll understand why I want to go to the bar, but won't be able to go herself, so she can pick me up when I'm drunk (I kid, I kid).


  17. mcat:

    oh cool! i gotta listen to that song when i get home!
    my list:
    1) great personality (funny, gets along w/ everyone, down to earth, etc)
    2) similar upbringing (same morals, etc.)
    3) click-ability (we click! things are easy - like the lyrics of the song)
    4) caring/loving (always does little things to shows he cares or thinks about me... aww!)
    5) smart & sporty (hehe, gotta be smart & also like to be adventurous)

    :) Have a good weekend!


  18. skycastles:

    I'm diggin' the Jason Castro song.It's sweet.

    Here's another relationship song. I like all the real life references in it. It's kinda similar to what NeedaHobby and rayboyjr mentioned above about those intangible things.

    Gym Class Heroes
    "Cupid's Chokehold"
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rD_2AMt9XXY


  19. World Wide Ed:

    * 8.tita leerz:
    3. Sweats! LOLLOL! He's athletic, he can build stuff, he cleans the house...and, um....hahahhah!

    LOL! You have some strange fetishes there leerz.

    Love the pager talk usage for 588V and 55V ! LOL!

    * 9.Erin:
    That is a cute song.

    Thanks E! But to me, it's "cool". ;)

    * 10.M:
    Ed, have a great trip!

    Thanks eMmz!

    * 15.tita leerz:
    BTW, guys, IMHO...girls are cute. Women are beautiful or pretty. When I hear a guy refer to a woman as cute, I automatically think of little girls.

    Nah, cute is a state of being. Guys, girls, women, men, dogs, cats, even old grandmas and grandpas. Dey all can be cute. 8)

    * 16.EMM386:
    What I'd really like is a re-habbed alcoholic. That way, she'll understand why I want to go to the bar, but won't be able to go herself, so she can pick me up when I'm drunk (I kid, I kid).

    OMG! Horrible EMMbot! Ingenious, but horrible. ;)

    * 17.mcat:
    3) click-ability (we click! things are easy - like the lyrics of the song)

    Ahaha! You should trademark that word McCat! Love it!

    * 18.skycastles:
    Here's another relationship song. I like all the real life references in it. It's kinda similar to what NeedaHobby and rayboyjr mentioned above about those intangible things.

    Gym Class Heroes
    "Cupid's Chokehold"
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rD_2AMt9XXY

    That song is catchy too! I always used to hear it on Hit List on Music Choice (Oceanic Digital Channel 801). Like the plug? ;) I like the line: "I mean she even cooks me pancakes and Alka Seltzer when my tummy aches. If that ain't love then I don't know what love is."


  20. skycastles:

    Ok been thinking about my list. Kinda tough to narrow down to only five but here goes:

    1. Intelligence - Gotta have something going on in the noggin but don't necessarily need to be book smart. Who wants to go through life with a dummy right? :p
    2. Sense of humor - Gotta be able to kick it and have a good time.
    3. Dreams - All slackers need not apply. Gotta have goals in this life, even if they're simple and we take it one baby step at a time. I'm all about movin' on up (to the east side) and making this life as good as I can.
    4. Patience - Cuz I got none . . .
    5. Morals - Honesty, loyalty, integrity and all that.


  21. NEO:

    Ed-

    I is single guy, so I gotta put out my "gotta haves" in a potential mate.

    1. I want someone whom I can spend a day with and it feels like a second.

    2. I want someone I can get lost with.

    3. I want someone whose smile can make the sun shine.

    4. I don't want someone who is hot, or sexy, I want someone who is beautiful...

    5. I want someone who will be mine, and who will allow me to be theirs.

    Enough mushy from me...

    NEO


  22. skycastles:

    @ Ed - Yup, that's a dope line. I also like:

    "She even got her very own ringtone
    If that ain't love then I don't know what love is"
    - Because if you don't have your own ringtone on your significant other's phone, then you ain't jack.

    "And we can be on the phone for three hours
    Not sayin' one word
    And I would still cherish every moment"
    - This was especially meaningful when there weren't a lot of unlimited cell plans out there. Do you know how much 3 hours of cell minutes cost?? :lol:


  23. kuya.d:

    @Bruddah NEO - I had to bus' out the puffs plus ... that is a well thought out list.


  24. tita leerz:

    Nuff all dis mushy talk everybody! Now go out and watch New Moon! :p


  25. NeedaHobby:

    @kuya - I don't think you have to worry about my team. As Justin Timberlake says, your team ... it's on fire, it's on fire ...


  26. NeedaHobby:

    @tita & @kuya - I was kinda surprised that Kevin won this week, since his food was so simple. It did seem to be the most well executed, though. I wonder how Brian felt after he helped him with the souvie (sp??) method.


  27. Rosette:

    Mate Traits........HEY MATE YOU GOT
    T CASH...omg funny......do you really want for poorer full of intelligence........!

    my number one list do not pick a dud of a guy....!
    Pick a guy that can be molded ...even if it take 19 years to mold them it is worth it!


  28. Rosette:

    Pick a guy that you can yell at and he can pretend to at least listen.


  29. kuya.d:

    @Hobbz - Kevin put out simple quality. Mike Volt surprised me since he had competition experience, I thought he would be bounds ahead of erryone. If Brian is as bad ass as he thinks he is, shouldn't matter that he helped Kevin.


  30. kuya.d:

    @£eerz - new m00n .... no thanks!


  31. kuya.d:

    @the wahines - which is the most flattering ... To be called beautiful, gorgeous, attractive, or hottie?


  32. Scott:

    Aloha Ed. Congrats on the 1 year. You doing good. I can tell when some couples are just good, and you seem good.
    I'm inching up on my 5 year anniversary and just about to turn 30. No advice from me to you, but I'm glad to share the journey with you on this blog.
    Aloha :)


  33. Coconut Willy:

    Cool song. Been married 11 great years. 2 kids. It's still exciting and always an adventure.


  34. Rosette:

    I been married for almost 19 years two kids...I am still screaming...omg! the best part is if you survive the first 15 years with two kids hanging around your neck you will make it to another 20 years without choking ach other!

    You get tested after you have two kids.


  35. Rosette:

    so pick a guy that can handle kids and he has cash to take care of them the rest you can mold him!


  36. Rosette:

    we got married young so we were kids....! two kids we molded each other the way we want each other to be.


  37. Rosette:

    yes when you married young and have your kids young you can tolerate watching cartoons and BARNEY and THOMAS the tank Engine..omg...good thing I had my kids younger or I throw the t.v. if I have to watch the kids show over and over again.!! SO YOU WANT TO WATCH SHREK?


  38. skycastles:

    @kuya.d - I think that's an interesting question. My vote is for beautiful and here's why in my opinion:

    Beautiful - This describes something that is timeless and can be used to describe anyone from a baby to a senior. It also refers to both the inner and outer aspects of a person.

    Gorgeous - This describes someone that is spectacular looking like a supermodel. It doesn't feel like an everyday adjective that you'd use when someone is in sweats or all dirty. But, I personally think you can use beautiful in this situation, which makes it more flattering than gorgeous.

    Attractive - This describes a person who is nice looking in a traditional sense (everyone would think this person is pretty). Because of this, it also feels a little colder or maybe more distant. It only comments on the outer beauty.

    Hottie - This is to be only used when describing skimpily clad spring breakers.


  39. kuya.d:

    @skycastles - mahalo for that feedback. I like "timeless" ... good one! along with elegant or stunning? I shoulda used those instead of attractive and hottie ...


  40. Rosette:

    hottie is from 18 to 23 after that .....wilted hottie!


  41. Rosette:

    beautiful....until DANG missing tooth after eating too much candy and fries! HOTTIE FULL OF SURGERY!


  42. Rosette:

    yes just learn to accept yourself .....and find a guy that loves you for missing tooth to senility!


  43. Rosette:

    BACK IN MY DAY ..the music we listen to....YES YES ... 1987 MUSIC.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MLxTEV5vpyg

    "Nothing's Gonna Change My Love For You"

    If I had to live my life without you near me
    The days would all be empty
    The nights would seem so long
    With you I see forever oh so clearly
    I might have been in love before
    But it never felt this strong
    Our dreams are young and we both know
    They'll take us where we want to go
    Hold me now, touch me now
    I don't want to live without you

    CHORUS:
    Nothing's gonna change my love for you
    You ought to know by now how much I love you
    One thing you can be sure of
    I'll never ask for more than your love
    Nothing's gonna change my love for you
    You ought to know by now how much I love you
    The world may change my whole life through
    But nothing's gonna change my love for you

    If the road ahead is not so easy
    Our love will lead a way for us
    Like a guiding star
    I'll be there for you if you should need me
    You don't have to change a thing
    I love you just the way you are
    So come with me and share the view
    I'll help you see forever too
    Hold me now, touch me now
    I don't want to live without you

    CHORUS


  44. kuya.d:

    @Rosette - wilted hottie ... you get credit for that new one. And thanks for busting out the Glenn Medeiros tunes. Or did George Benson record it first?


  45. World Wide Ed:

    * 20.skycastles:
    1. Intelligence - Gotta have something going on in the noggin but don't necessarily need to be book smart. Who wants to go through life with a dummy right? :p

    LOLOL! Then again, you can boss 'um around sky... and he won't complain. :P

    * 21.NEO:
    1. I want someone whom I can spend a day with and it feels like a second.

    Enough mushy from me...

    NEO

    Wow I'm impressed NEO. You ARE the one. ;)

    * 22.skycastles:
    Do you know how much 3 hours of cell minutes cost??

    Bwahahaha!

    * 23.kuya.d:
    @Bruddah NEO - I had to bus' out the puffs plus ... that is a well thought out list.

    Puffs Plus! LOL!

    * 24.tita leerz:
    Nuff all dis mushy talk everybody! Now go out and watch New Moon! :p

    Did you see it yet leerz? Good shtuffs?

    * 27.Rosette:
    Pick a guy that can be molded ...even if it take 19 years to mold them it is worth it!

    Tsk tsk tsk. Rosey Rosey Rosey. Don't you know we men can't be molded. You have to love us for who we are... 8)

    * 30.kuya.d:
    @£eerz - new m00n .... no thanks!

    0n7y 4 n3rd5! ;)

    * 31.kuya.d:
    @the wahines - which is the most flattering ... To be called beautiful, gorgeous, attractive, or hottie?

    ... or "cot dayem!"... :P

    * 32.Scott:
    I'm inching up on my 5 year anniversary and just about to turn 30. No advice from me to you, but I'm glad to share the journey with you on this blog. Aloha

    Mahaloz Scotty2Hotty! And likewise. Looking forward to sharing the journey witcha! I gotta catch up with you and start workin' on pumpin' out those kids. Haha, nah! Congrats to you and Mrs. Scotty2Hotty on (almost) making 5 years. Quite an accomplishment fo sho!

    * 33.Coconut Willy:
    Cool song. Been married 11 great years. 2 kids. It's still exciting and always an adventure.

    Awesome Dubbs! Seems like we've got a lot of happily married peeps on this blog. SO happy to hear! :)

    * 36.Rosette:
    we got married young so we were kids....! two kids we molded each other the way we want each other to be.

    So you're saying hubby molded you to what you are today Rosey? Interesting... :P

    * 38.skycastles:
    Hottie - This is to be only used when describing skimpily clad spring breakers.

    And what's wrong with that sky? Hehehe, nah, nah. No keel me! ;)

    * 39.kuya.d:
    @skycastles - mahalo for that feedback. I like "timeless" ... good one! along with elegant or stunning? I shoulda used those instead of attractive and hottie ...

    Should've used those on who? Do tell dewz! 8)

    * 43.Rosette:
    BACK IN MY DAY ..the music we listen to....YES YES ... 1987 MUSIC.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MLxTEV5vpyg

    "Nothing's Gonna Change My Love For You"

    Woah! Flashbacks! Awesome find Rosey! I wonder what he's doing now?


  46. tita leerz:

    who da nerd?!


  47. tita leerz:

    no i neva see. i can't go look at eye candy old enough to be my child. LOL!

    @Kuya- like beautiful. like how sky put it "timeless." it also denotes classy, IMHO.


  48. kuya.d:

    @Leerz - yup, timeless does directly reflect class. IMHO, classy refers to a more mature woman who carries herself with a certain quality that commands respect in a non-snobby way.

    ... and since when has age mattered to you? Nah!


  49. kuya.d:

    @Ed - I meant I shoulda used elegant and stunning instead of attractive and hottie on the list of options.

    ... And your boy Glenn Medeiros was teaching a couple years back at Island Pacific Academy. Not too sure where he's at now.


  50. kuya.d:

    @Leerz - and sistah, you always been beautiful! ... awww!


  51. World Wide Ed:

    * 46.tita leerz:
    who da nerd?!

    New Moon watchers. 8) Hehe, nah, actually I wanna see it at some point too I guess.

    * 47.tita leerz:
    no i neva see. i can't go look at eye candy old enough to be my child. LOL!

    LOL! Eye candy child? :P

    * 49.kuya.d:
    @Ed - I meant I shoulda used elegant and stunning instead of attractive and hottie on the list of options.

    Nah, I like "hottie"! LOL!

    * 50.kuya.d:
    @Leerz - and sistah, you always been beautiful! ... awww!

    Awww... :P


  52. skycastles:

    @Ed - Tempting but would probably get irkatating if he's so dumb that he can't do anything by himself. :lol:

    @kuya.d - The G-man did his student teaching in my history class in high school. I think we scared him away from teaching the big kids though. Had some smart alecks in the class that made it challenging for him. Plus, we would nag him about singing but he never did sing for us.


  53. World Wide Ed:

    * 52. skycastles:
    @Ed - Tempting but would probably get irkatating if he's so dumb that he can't do anything by himself.

    LOLOL! to both your comment and the usage of the word irkatating!!!


  54. kuya.d:

    @sky - word! I hear you, I woulda gave him a hard time about his hair ... Haha!